How to Gain the Respect of Those Around You
The Simple Way to Gain Respect
There’s a book titled, “A Man Called Ove” by Frederik Backman. The character, Ove, is often described as curmudgeonly or even angry. The book is the tale of how he softens, and it’s filled with a lot of great one liners, some hilarious, some sad, and others inspiring. In the first third of the book, there is a flash back to when he was a teen and working for the rail yard. Caught up in a scandal, that of course he didn’t do, he states:
“Men are what they are because of what they do. Not what they say.”
It’s simple line that perfectly sums up who he is. Ove is a by-the-books kind of guy. There are rules, standards, and orders in place for a reason, and he follows them. He doesn’t say much, but you can always count on him to do what is supposed to be done.
There’s an application we can all take away from this.
Maintain Your Integrity
Throughout our lives we will be faced with choices. In fact, one could argue that everything we do is a choice that we make. You have the choice to not go to work, but the consequences probably are severe enough that you don’t want to do that. You have the choice to eat cheeseburgers every day for the rest of your life, but the consequences are likely not what you desire for your health. You have the choice to take an extended break, slip in the back 15 minutes late, or duck out early when nobody is watching, and the consequences likely will be little to none.
But when you get caught making choices that benefit only you, the trust that people put into you slips a little bit. Get caught a second time, and that trust deteriorates even more. Eventually, you’re seen as a person without integrity. You can talk all you want, but your actions speak far louder.
Our passion at A & D Auto Body is to train leaders. That training is because those who work here trust the leadership. That leadership is trusted because of their integrity.
It’s not enough to say that we lead a strong company; we have to prove it as well.
Your Reputation Builds Slowly
When you first enter the scene, whether at a new job, or a new school, or a new social setting, you have to prove to others that you are who you say you are. At first, you are all talk; there are no actions to back up the words.
Over time, you build a foundation. When you are a person of integrity, that foundation is a solid one that is backed up by a history of doing the right thing because it’s the right thing to do. When someone comes along trying to undermine you they can’t. Because you have built your reputation on integrity.
A & D Auto Body Trains Leaders
Here at A & D, we like to say that we are in the business of training leaders, we just happen to be good at fixing cars. The reality is that the foundation of integrity, the foundation of being who we are because of what we do, is what causes us to be good at fixing cars. When the two work together, everyone benefits.